Alex Linder
November 21st, 2004, 01:42 AM
Essay with reader letter...re easy divorce, stolen children, enslaved ex-husbands...
http://www.vanguardnewsnetwork.com/2004b/Johnson112004Divorce.htm
Easy Divorce = Hellish Lives
by Doug Johnson
20 November 2004
I talked to my oldest daughter this morning, something that I look forward to every day. Before my cell phone's bad reception cut our conversation short, she managed to tell me what she wanted for Christmas this year. Unfortunately, when I did return the call there was a tremendous commotion in the background with her mother barking commands for her to get off the phone. At that point my ex-wife commandeered the phone and informed me that our daughters are waiting for a TV show to come on and asked me if I could call back later. Because she records our conversations, I bit my lip and hung up. I wasn't going to fall for another one of her baiting tactics to create ammunition to use against me in court.
Situations like this are common, though; after all, I had to take her to court to be able to have phone calls with my daughters in the first place. Fortunately, the judge granted me liberal phone-call privileges after repeatedly asking my ex-wife whether or not she interfered with me calling our daughters, to which she lied through her teeth and said, "No." She stated this even though there were weeks at a time when she would ignore my phone calls or tell me that they were busy and could not come to the phone. I would even have my family phone her to state that I wanted my daughters to call me and she would ignore them.
All of this has created a situation where at times I don't even know my own daughters. When we were together as a family we did not own a TV, but now their mother interrupts my phone-call time for them to watch a "show"? Also, their mother tells them that I will let them watch their "shows" when we are together, which I will not for many reasons. Among them are that my time with them is limited and we spend it outside - running, playing, and enjoying each other's company. Another reason is that the "shows" they are allowed to watch are inappropriate for a five- and an eight-year-old. My daughters prefer to watch Nickelodian shows like the Fairly OddParents or Rugrats, which are filled with anti-family bias. Also, the incessant commercials throughout the programming indoctrinate children into a consumer lifestyle. I now have two daughters who spend their days watching TV, eating junk food and making lists of what they want for Christmas or their birthday. Delayed gratification is nonexistent in their lives.
And how do I feel about all of this? Well, I feel a lot of different ways. I feel angry because I have to deal with a manipulative, vindictive and controlling ex-wife who is doing everything she can to make me pay, both emotionally and financially, for my continued relationship with my daughters. I also feel confused because this "thing" that is now my ex-wife lives in a fantasy world that I cannot communicate with. Earth to Planet EX, can you read me...? She now has the attitude that I owe her for our failed marriage and unfortunately, she has found a lawyer who is making that happen. But as bad as all of that is, I can put up with her petty emotional games. What I can't put up with is that my daughters are being raised with a serious lack of discipline that will cause them to face many difficulties when they reach adolescence. A lack of discipline that evolves from having a TV as a babysitter and a mother that pacifies every disagreement between them with some form of snack food. Plus the fact that they live with their divorced aunt and her two children, which creates a family structure without a male figure in the home. The only male figure to speak of is their aunt's boyfriend, who only stops in long enough to please himself before he leaves. My daughter's role models outside of the home are people like their babysitters; two sisters from a divorced family. One of them even has an illegitimate child. Notice any patterns here?
The only thing that counters the rage I feel is the burden of helplessness that I experience over the whole situation. I just don't have enough money to support an ex-wife, two children, a lawyer and myself. If my ex-wife and I were still married, then we would go without something if we did not have the money for it. But now that we are divorced the court is ordering me to meet her demands or I will go to jail. How does that make any sense? I now realize that everything she told me concerning how we would cooperate together for our daughters' sake during this time was a lie. Now I am forced into a situation where friends are helping me out with everything from discount lawyer rates to free meals. So far, I have a court ordered right to phone calls and a visit every Sunday. But what I don't have is enough money to support myself while keeping up to date with the extortion racket known as child support. My ex-wife's lawyer finds every excuse in the book to delay a child support hearing while I literally sleep on an air mattress, live off a credit card and drive a sixteen year old car that leaks one quart of transmission fluid a day. In the mean time, my children are spoiled rotten with expensive toys, clothes and junk food while their mother earns untaxed income and collects social services. AND IF I DON'T PAY, I GO TO JAIL. You do not know the meaning of the word rage until you have been in a situation like this.
In a perfect world, there would be no divorce. In a fair and rational world, I would put my daughters to bed every night while their emotionally disturbed mother supported herself. And don't even get me started on what would happen to the lawyers.
DOUG JOHNSON
Subject: divorce and the ensuing enslaved male
Doug -
Please let me put my two cents worth in with you concerning your non-shackled enslavement (remember "The Robe", where Richard Burton purchases Victor Mature as a slave, but sends him unshakled and unsupervised to run errands - a slave is a slave is a slave!). True, court-order child-support payors are not shackled and not supervised, but they are every much a slave or victim just as if a thug were extorting money from them - you pay or they will assault your body (if you don't think handcuffs constitute an assault, try putting them on someone and see how fast your are charged with assault). Some of us older victims remember marrying BEFORE they had no-fault divorce laws, and so we felt, correctly so, that these laws violated the constitutional prohibition against ex-post-facto legislation.
Even so, the whole idea of penalizing a man for pursuing his birth right to bed down with consenting females is a crime against mankind.. I believe it has created an massive tectonic underworld of bubbling rage within those men who have been victimized by it. I tried in vain for many years to find out WHO dreamed up this "no-fault" idea and how did it ever get put into law. I got nowhere, then, just before y2k, I came accross some posts on the internet that claimed the first implementing of so-called no-fault divorce laws were enacted in Russia, by the jewish communists in 1919, and they had translations of it on-line - it read almost exactly like those that were passed here in the late 1960's. The article claimed that the PURPOSE of those laws was not to help Russian women, but to BREAK THE BACK of the proud Russian male - so as to keep them precoccupied and emasculated and not able to rebel against the communist takeover. It worked so well that they set about to bring it to the rest of the white world, including the US, but they got a severe setback during the McCarthy hearings, and it wasn't until the 1960's that they had enough corrupted political influence to push it through.
I believe that scenario - I just don't know what will become of this, and the victims of this in my age group are not likely to live long enough to see anything come of it, but, it is something I can imagine that someday an opportunity will present itself and all hell will break loose. It is just as if someone STOLE your children. Delayed rage amongst white men for the theft of several generations of their children would be a sight to behold. After I survived my ordeal (I am glad to say that FINALLY, after 20 years, my 35-ish daughter has gotten herself together and we are very close), one of my close friends who was in the middle of his ordeal called me up crying like a baby (a former navy JET pilot - two-fisted a man if ever there was one), and I had to try to console him - there are no words to say to ease the pain of victimization of having your children stolen from you and also having yourself subjected to years of unrelenting extortion.
That kind of rage will NEVER die. In time, you will outlive the ordeal and find that there are MILLIONS of other white men (and non-white men also, believe it or not), who carry the same wounds. Hang in there - live on, and never forget. Live on to tell the younger generation of males that follow - at some point victorious white males who rebelled should proclaim that NO ONE has the right to interfere with a man's birthright to: a) mate with any consenting adult female he can so pursuade; and, b) to raise any of his own children he so chooses in whatever way he chooses. Now that is something worthy of white men to fight for.
http://www.vanguardnewsnetwork.com/2004b/Johnson112004Divorce.htm
Easy Divorce = Hellish Lives
by Doug Johnson
20 November 2004
I talked to my oldest daughter this morning, something that I look forward to every day. Before my cell phone's bad reception cut our conversation short, she managed to tell me what she wanted for Christmas this year. Unfortunately, when I did return the call there was a tremendous commotion in the background with her mother barking commands for her to get off the phone. At that point my ex-wife commandeered the phone and informed me that our daughters are waiting for a TV show to come on and asked me if I could call back later. Because she records our conversations, I bit my lip and hung up. I wasn't going to fall for another one of her baiting tactics to create ammunition to use against me in court.
Situations like this are common, though; after all, I had to take her to court to be able to have phone calls with my daughters in the first place. Fortunately, the judge granted me liberal phone-call privileges after repeatedly asking my ex-wife whether or not she interfered with me calling our daughters, to which she lied through her teeth and said, "No." She stated this even though there were weeks at a time when she would ignore my phone calls or tell me that they were busy and could not come to the phone. I would even have my family phone her to state that I wanted my daughters to call me and she would ignore them.
All of this has created a situation where at times I don't even know my own daughters. When we were together as a family we did not own a TV, but now their mother interrupts my phone-call time for them to watch a "show"? Also, their mother tells them that I will let them watch their "shows" when we are together, which I will not for many reasons. Among them are that my time with them is limited and we spend it outside - running, playing, and enjoying each other's company. Another reason is that the "shows" they are allowed to watch are inappropriate for a five- and an eight-year-old. My daughters prefer to watch Nickelodian shows like the Fairly OddParents or Rugrats, which are filled with anti-family bias. Also, the incessant commercials throughout the programming indoctrinate children into a consumer lifestyle. I now have two daughters who spend their days watching TV, eating junk food and making lists of what they want for Christmas or their birthday. Delayed gratification is nonexistent in their lives.
And how do I feel about all of this? Well, I feel a lot of different ways. I feel angry because I have to deal with a manipulative, vindictive and controlling ex-wife who is doing everything she can to make me pay, both emotionally and financially, for my continued relationship with my daughters. I also feel confused because this "thing" that is now my ex-wife lives in a fantasy world that I cannot communicate with. Earth to Planet EX, can you read me...? She now has the attitude that I owe her for our failed marriage and unfortunately, she has found a lawyer who is making that happen. But as bad as all of that is, I can put up with her petty emotional games. What I can't put up with is that my daughters are being raised with a serious lack of discipline that will cause them to face many difficulties when they reach adolescence. A lack of discipline that evolves from having a TV as a babysitter and a mother that pacifies every disagreement between them with some form of snack food. Plus the fact that they live with their divorced aunt and her two children, which creates a family structure without a male figure in the home. The only male figure to speak of is their aunt's boyfriend, who only stops in long enough to please himself before he leaves. My daughter's role models outside of the home are people like their babysitters; two sisters from a divorced family. One of them even has an illegitimate child. Notice any patterns here?
The only thing that counters the rage I feel is the burden of helplessness that I experience over the whole situation. I just don't have enough money to support an ex-wife, two children, a lawyer and myself. If my ex-wife and I were still married, then we would go without something if we did not have the money for it. But now that we are divorced the court is ordering me to meet her demands or I will go to jail. How does that make any sense? I now realize that everything she told me concerning how we would cooperate together for our daughters' sake during this time was a lie. Now I am forced into a situation where friends are helping me out with everything from discount lawyer rates to free meals. So far, I have a court ordered right to phone calls and a visit every Sunday. But what I don't have is enough money to support myself while keeping up to date with the extortion racket known as child support. My ex-wife's lawyer finds every excuse in the book to delay a child support hearing while I literally sleep on an air mattress, live off a credit card and drive a sixteen year old car that leaks one quart of transmission fluid a day. In the mean time, my children are spoiled rotten with expensive toys, clothes and junk food while their mother earns untaxed income and collects social services. AND IF I DON'T PAY, I GO TO JAIL. You do not know the meaning of the word rage until you have been in a situation like this.
In a perfect world, there would be no divorce. In a fair and rational world, I would put my daughters to bed every night while their emotionally disturbed mother supported herself. And don't even get me started on what would happen to the lawyers.
DOUG JOHNSON
Subject: divorce and the ensuing enslaved male
Doug -
Please let me put my two cents worth in with you concerning your non-shackled enslavement (remember "The Robe", where Richard Burton purchases Victor Mature as a slave, but sends him unshakled and unsupervised to run errands - a slave is a slave is a slave!). True, court-order child-support payors are not shackled and not supervised, but they are every much a slave or victim just as if a thug were extorting money from them - you pay or they will assault your body (if you don't think handcuffs constitute an assault, try putting them on someone and see how fast your are charged with assault). Some of us older victims remember marrying BEFORE they had no-fault divorce laws, and so we felt, correctly so, that these laws violated the constitutional prohibition against ex-post-facto legislation.
Even so, the whole idea of penalizing a man for pursuing his birth right to bed down with consenting females is a crime against mankind.. I believe it has created an massive tectonic underworld of bubbling rage within those men who have been victimized by it. I tried in vain for many years to find out WHO dreamed up this "no-fault" idea and how did it ever get put into law. I got nowhere, then, just before y2k, I came accross some posts on the internet that claimed the first implementing of so-called no-fault divorce laws were enacted in Russia, by the jewish communists in 1919, and they had translations of it on-line - it read almost exactly like those that were passed here in the late 1960's. The article claimed that the PURPOSE of those laws was not to help Russian women, but to BREAK THE BACK of the proud Russian male - so as to keep them precoccupied and emasculated and not able to rebel against the communist takeover. It worked so well that they set about to bring it to the rest of the white world, including the US, but they got a severe setback during the McCarthy hearings, and it wasn't until the 1960's that they had enough corrupted political influence to push it through.
I believe that scenario - I just don't know what will become of this, and the victims of this in my age group are not likely to live long enough to see anything come of it, but, it is something I can imagine that someday an opportunity will present itself and all hell will break loose. It is just as if someone STOLE your children. Delayed rage amongst white men for the theft of several generations of their children would be a sight to behold. After I survived my ordeal (I am glad to say that FINALLY, after 20 years, my 35-ish daughter has gotten herself together and we are very close), one of my close friends who was in the middle of his ordeal called me up crying like a baby (a former navy JET pilot - two-fisted a man if ever there was one), and I had to try to console him - there are no words to say to ease the pain of victimization of having your children stolen from you and also having yourself subjected to years of unrelenting extortion.
That kind of rage will NEVER die. In time, you will outlive the ordeal and find that there are MILLIONS of other white men (and non-white men also, believe it or not), who carry the same wounds. Hang in there - live on, and never forget. Live on to tell the younger generation of males that follow - at some point victorious white males who rebelled should proclaim that NO ONE has the right to interfere with a man's birthright to: a) mate with any consenting adult female he can so pursuade; and, b) to raise any of his own children he so chooses in whatever way he chooses. Now that is something worthy of white men to fight for.